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Healthy Relationship With Our Animal Companions

How can we experience a healthy relationship with our animal companions? There’s no doubt that for many people, the presence of an animal in their home is a lifesaver. Where people live alone or do not find relating to other people easy, the love and companionship offered by an animal is of prime importance. To lose such a connection through death or another kind of parting may feel devastating and isolating to human or animal.

Just as human relationships and partnerships take time to grow, so do our relationships with animals. Recognition and attention to an animal’s mental, emotional and physical states and their body language gives us the opportunity to use our emotions, our mind and intuition to thoughtfully connect with that animal and understand him/her. Different species have different needs. Not all animals want to be hugged or stroked but they may like to be near us. For example, some cats do not like to be held close by humans and as a consequence, people take this personally. In fact, cats do not show the same degree of loyalty to, or dependence on humans in the same way that dogs do. They have something to teach us about freedom of spirit, about personal boundaries and self-reliance.

Tuning into the Needs of the Animal

There are many different kinds of connections between humans and companion animals and probably everyone knows someone who seems ‘over-the-top’ and someone who seems negligent and unkind to their animals. Much of how we relate is a combination of the influence of our upbringing, education, our intuition, individual level of emotional maturity and ability to relate to an animal with respect and consideration.

People who are very attached emotionally to their animals may find it difficult to leave them or to make a life-changing medical decision for the animal’s welfare. An emotionally driven relationship may express fear and anxiety that in turn impacts on the level of security the animal experiences. Projections may be made onto the animal that are more in line with human thoughts and feelings rather than those of the animal concerned.

When we have strong emotional bonds with any animal, the decision to euthanize or part with them is often not straightforward, but the more we can step out of our own fears or sense of grief and loss, the more we can identify the true needs of our animal friend. Letting go for any reason can be a painful and up and down process which follows its own course for each individual and there are no set time frames for letting go emotionally.

First Light® seed essence No 52 Nikau Palm is an essence that animals and people alike can be given to help create new ways of relating to each other. Nikau Palm helps bring harmony to relationships, increasing emotional awareness, which makes for a relationship that is more honest, more at ease and has the potential for more fun.

Nikau Palm can be added to a blend of essences that may also contain No 38 Rasp Fern and No 45 Matai. No 38 Rasp Fern works to gently release emotional fears and sorrow and No 45 Matai helps strengthen a sense of emotional balance and tranquillity. These three essences work well together to bring about a vital, balanced emotional response to life. The dosage is 4 drops 3 – 4 times daily in the mouth, drinking water or on food. You can use a combination of all three ways. Finish the bottle and a second would be beneficial to seed in the changes.

— Marj Marks
Marj is a First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand registered practitioner and registered Veterinary Nurse. Marj can be contacted on 09 422 0177, 027 612 5256 or by email: