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Enhancing relationships and communication with our children

As a parent I strive to be in a balanced, trusting and supportive relationship with my children, be able to listen openly to their needs and be unconditionally available to them on all levels. Staying in heart and seeing the beauty in which they offer themselves to the world is a goal I am sure many off us share as parents. The ever present stressors of daily life sure do seem to be enough to try to push me off my path. Fortunately, the First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand® provide valuable assistance.

To be able to stay in relationship with our children and keep our communication effective and truthful are two challenges we are sure to meet on our parenting journey. To assist our children to be able to communicate with the world around them and relate positively to it go hand in hand.

No 54 Houpara - the seed essence for restoring the pattern for right relationship - will assist to establish a genuine heartfelt relationship to the world around them. From this place they can develop and enhance their compassionate and empathetic patterns of relating to better understand the interconnectedness of all things. If your child shows ongoing issues around betrayal, rejection or trust in a relationship, using No 40 Silver Fern with No 54 Houpara will assist to address the core trauma that is underlying the state.

No 55 Hangehange is the seed essence for restoring the pattern of right speech. If your child is experiencing ongoing difficulty in the area of communication, whether it be to speak or to be heard, No 55 Hangehange will assist them to move into a place to communicate clearly, with truth and integrity, whilst speaking powerfully and confidently from the heart. If your child shows ongoing challenges around experiencing judgment and humiliation you may want to add No 41 Prince of Wales Feathers Fern to the blend.

Children often find it challenging to find the appropriate words to express themselves, particularly when they are out of balance or stressed by life’s expectations. This is when they need the parent most. I have a son whose emotions and mental state can easily take hold and he becomes very overwhelmed. No 7 Mountain Parahebe, the communication essence, is his essence in this situation. As this is also his keynote or power flower it is most noticeable when he has support from his plant friend. A pronounced change in his ability to verbally communicate positively and powerfully replaces the negative expression of the painful difficulty in communicating his inner thoughts and feelings. For some children this may express as pain, anger or avoidance relating to school or learning. Mountain Parahebe is one of the flowers of transformation, hence the shift from a negative expression with communication into a positive one.

The flower essence No 19 Lovers Daisy is a powerful ally if your relationship with your child is becoming a power struggle. If the child is behaving in hurtful ways to themselves or to a loved one, No 19 Lovers Daisy helps at the level of the personality to express a healthy attitude to relating.

Often I need to remind myself that relating and communication are two-way streets. It is often easier to see how your children are out of balance than it is to see your own imbalances. The essences can assist you to bring about a stronger, heart-centred, joy-filled relationship with your child when you work with them yourself.

— Anna Gentry
Anna is a First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand Practitioner, Diploma holder, and tutor. A qualified and experienced teacher, mother of 4 young children and co-founder of NaturePlayNZ, an organisation dedicated to assisting children, mother earth and the future. First Light® Flower Essences form the foundation of her relationship to assist all children to express beauty and balance in their lives. Anna can be contacted by email: